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Listen2love

Thanks for reading my daily reflections on marriage in March. I am returning to my weekly Friday blog posts! Grateful for you, Mary   I wrote this intention in January 2017 – This year I want to listen more to those around me rather than speak into them. I believe listening is the way to heal and mend hearts – generationally and spiritually. I want to listen actively to find that which I am to…

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More Marriage Learning

I continue to celebrate models of marriage that daily walk out in their lives what it means to love and honor. Our first opportunity to influence comes from what others see us doing. So while not all have been nearby to me, I have seen and been influenced by their loving example. Here what they experienced as key to a long, loving, committed marriage. Barb and Mike – 46 years Barb – I married at…

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Marriage Literacy

If you have been around me long you will hear me say that literacy is built on two tracks: modeling and repetition. I think there is such a thing as marriage literacy. Learning and doing what is right and good over and over again. I am grateful to have witnessed some wonderful models of marriage. One of my goals this year has been to grow my love for Gary. I got this idea last year…

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Learning to Give

Sometimes the troubles we have with our spouse are a result of our own conditioning them. Let’s talk gifts. I think it is safe to say that giving gifts to each other is a pretty risky endeavor in the early years. Depending on how that is handled it may have some long lasting effects. Perhaps the real reason couples don’t give each other gifts is: We don’t know what to give Or In our instant…

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Surprise!!!!

On our one year anniversary, I decided to surprise Gary. He was working a very stressful job. No matter how many hours he put in there was always a big problem and a big headache. So I made some arrangements and showed up at work with his suitcase in the trunk and invited him to lunch. That was the “sucker” surprise but when the car kept going north he sort of realized that the BIG…

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Strategic Thinking, Planning and Acting

Mary, you must be scraping the bottom to think that strategic thinking and marriage go together. How unromantic. Well actually Gary would say it has been our ability to strategically think, plan and act that has gotten us through so much of the challenge and difficulty anyone’s thirty years of marriage can represent.  So consider some simple rhythms that may help you align your energy and your calendar. Because it is much better going together.…

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