Decade 1 – Productivity – 6 kids and 4 moves. The 2 most productive words at your disposal are yes and no. Saying yes to this many children in this amount of time meant Gary and I said no to many other things. This yes and no intention also helped us to refine goals and create healthy boundaries. Decade 2 – Capacity – Cancer, Navy retirement, 3 kids, and 2 moves. As we chose this…
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It seemed like a good idea at the time. Christmas was coming and the budget was so tight it was squealing. I hit upon a plan to provide a little relief; I asked Mary if it would be ok if we did not give gifts to each other. She agreed and we were all set…. Or so I thought. After 30ish years of marriage I have learned a few things, very few, and one of…
Leave a CommentWhen I figured out that I was my biggest problem, I also figured out that I could contribute the solution. The best solution I bring to my marriage is being the healthiest version of myself. One of the deeper understandings in this season of my life has been that time is fixed and energy can flex. So often I have acted the opposite. I have acted as if time can flex and energy is fixed.…
Leave a CommentChristmas was practically here. I was heading home from my naval duty station in Newport, Rhode Island to be with my family in Annapolis. During my Christmas Leave at home, a friend called and asked if I wouldn’t mind going out with a buddy of his stationed nearby in Washington DC. I really respected this friend. I was home for two weeks while the school command was closed for the Christmas break so it was…
Leave a CommentToday’s post is written by my friend Lisa McLean. While this month is about marriage, making friends with folks who are working to stick with it is vital. Friends make our marriages better. Know yourself to stay married. In ICC, I learned the phrase “Know yourself to lead yourself,” which means that if you don’t know yourself and what makes you tick, you won’t be able to be in control of your feelings and actions.…
Leave a CommentMy husband Gary gave me a trip to Hawaii for our tenth wedding anniversary. It just happened to last two years and included our six kids and household goods. With the kids, ages 8 years and younger with one on the way, we discovered within a year of arriving in Hawaii that I had Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. If you do have to have a serious illness, I can recommend to do that in Hawaii. I just…
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